Wednesday, July 14, 2004

[Essay] Once Is Enough, Twice Is Too Much, Thrice May Be Deadly

Do you believe in the title of this entry? I do and it could mean a lot of things in this diversified world of ours. It could portray our wish list (i.e. those things we'd like to do before we leave this life), our mistakes, our relationships, our health, our decisions & our loves.

Normally, people inflicted with terminal illness tend to make wish lists to help divert their attention and to at least regain a sense of normalcy for their everyday life. Usually, this wish list of theirs consists of things they wanted to do or events they wanted to go to. It's not really the material things they wanted but the experience of life in the fullest, knowing that their time is nearly up. So they make the best of what is left. How I wish healthy people would have such care & reverence for life such as they!

The saying is also true when it comes to making mistakes because when we commit one for the first time, we are bound to learn something significant from it and rise above a similar situation in the future.

Same too with relationships but let's focus more on what psychologists termed as "unhealthy relationships." They called it such because both the relationship and the people involved are not growing in a positive way. Instead, it's destroying their self-esteem and confidence. If ever, you've got the guts to quit on such a relationship from hell, try to abstain from it for such depression that only a bad relationship can bring could have long-term effects to your intelligence, well-being & spirit.

When it comes to health, almost if not all teenagers would like to try new things even if they're educated on it & knew what the after-effects are. Examples for the youth and adults as well are smoking, drinking, drugs, gambling & sometimes...sex.

All the above examples have long-term bad effects except in certain cases when it comes to gambling (for a provoked sore-loser could kill you on the spot!). Smoking, drinking, drugs, gambling & sex is okay once, if you really can't quench that curiosity and you think it would only stop if you had a little taste. But STOP after that one little taste, except of course if you're a married person (for sex is an active part of marriage & family but do it with only one partner if you please!) and choose your partner well! Doing the above examples twice could start a habit until one day you'll wake up & find yourselves with lung cancer, cancer of the liver, a drug dependent (therefore you'll either be locked up in rehab, jail or in a mental facility/institution), STDs or worse, HIV. While it is true that science has already an antidote for cancer & HIV will follow soon, but WHY LET YOURSELF GO THROUGH THE AGONY & SUFFERING WHEN YOU HAVE THE CHOICE TO STAY CLEAR OF THESE VICES IN THE FIRST PLACE?

When faced with difficult situations that needs to be decided upon with great care, we tend to come up with at least 5 options, paths, or strategies and each has a predetermined or self-projected consequence. As a result when we chose one of the five choices and it backfired, we tend to play the "what if" game while the situation is still fresh. But after some time, when we find ourselves in yet another similar situation (remember, history repeats itself), we tend to come up with another 5 and make the same mistake all over again! It would seem that we didn't learn from before. You may be right. So the challenge here is to remember what the other 4 options were & choose among the remaining 4. Who knows? You might get a more favorable outcome. If not, there are still 3 options left! Just don't use the same decision a million times when you know that it won't work.

And here comes the last but certainly not least...is love. We have a lot of loves that will certainly come and go throughout the course of our lives and we can only learn from the experience and live through the loss and try not to be so foolish as we were before.

We have also heard of various love stories from family and friends and we too can learn from their mistakes, same goes with the various love stories we read in history books, novels & anecdotes.

There are great stories to learn from if only we would listen, pay really close attention to the details & keep the lesson close to your heart.

An example would be an obsessive lover. As you have read the book entitled, "Valentine." I'm sure you'll understand why something so innocent as love could turn out to be deadly.

A classic example of history repeating itself is that of an obssessive guy, following around your mom (when she was your age) everywhere she goes & then it happens to your older sister & then to yourself! So what do you do? Ask your mom & sister what they did to ditch the guy without getting themselves killed in the process & follow their example. If you do just the opposite & encouraged his unwanted attention, he could be so scarred by your rejection in the end that he could be plotting your kidnapping and digging up your grave so no one else will have you! The moral lesson here is not to play with fire for you might get burned. It would be nice if it turned out to be heaven but what if it's hell instead? How do you get out?

In conclusion, I would like to remind everyone that ONCE IS ENOUGH, TWICE IS TOO MUCH, AND THRICE MAY BE DEADLY.

Wouldn't life be so much more fun-filled if you try all of the "healthy" activities available at least once so that when you look back, you can say more or less, that you've already done everything imaginable!

Live life to the fullest - IN A HEALTHY WAY!